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I have only just realised that, even though i am now 31, that this is the first time i have lived alone. Until recently i had always shared a home with parents, housemates or a variety of girlfriends. As someone who loves the company of others, i find it remarkable that i enjoy the solitude of my own place so much. It means that i am able to work a lot more on my writing without the interference of family or worklife. As a result, my attempt at writing a novel in 30 days for NiNoWriMo is actually on track!

I’m not saying what i’ve written so far is good by anyone’s standard. But it is being written and for me that is a huge step on my road to recovery. Every year I promise myself I will attempt this project and every year i give up after one or two days. Living on my own has given me the freedom to dispose of the lifestyle I had become used to and create a new lifestyle where I can work, write, have a social life and spend quality time with my children.

As you know, I tend to try to put a positive spin on all the rubbish life throws at me. This time it feels different. This is more than looking at the brighter side, this is being locked in a darkened room and smashing a hole in the wall to allow the light through!

If opportunity fails to knock, build a door.

There is nothing, and I mean nothing, worse than filling in an application form for a job. For someone who is at their lowest ebb, the idea of putting down your life’s achievements (or lack thereof) onto paper is akin to pointing a loaded gun at your head and pulling the trigger. I have lost track of the amount of times I have sat looking at an application form, thinking “What’s the point? There is probably someone better for the job.”

I have recently had an opportunity to apply for a job that I knew was way out of my league. The reason I applied was not for the job itself (though that would have been nice!) but rather use this  as an opportunity to re-evaluate my life in a more positive way. Regular readers will know that I don’t put much stock on my life achievements, so this seemed like a mountain of a challenge.

This application was different to others in that it laid out a list of essential criteria that required an example for each point. When I first saw the list, my heart sank. Was I qualified for this job? Did I have the relevant experience? This was looking like another failed application. But I stuck with it and went through each point one by one. With each point, I simply took an episode from my life and fitted it around the relevant criteria the employer was looking for. Before long I had a comprehensive list of desirablequalities about myself that I wouldn’t have believed to be true about me. A sudden realisation had dawned on me. I haven’t been wasting my life!

I didn’t get the job but that wasn’t the point of the application. The application allowed me to see what I havetruly achieved so far in my life. It also showed me where the gaps in my life are that need filled. So if you are about to start an application for a job, get rid of all negative thoughts beforehand and use the form to show off your strengths. It worked for me! And now I feel more positive about my future.